CHECKLIST for TRUE FRIENDSHIP
True friends are constant in ways you can count on. A friend like that came to visit me this weekend.
She endured a four-hour drive, lengthened by a traffic accident that jammed the freeway for hours. That meant a late arrival and no time to get together the first day.
We have kept up by email and phone calls since I moved away nine years ago. I must say I’m thankful for modern communication, but, for me, nothing beats getting together in person.
My friend and I encouraged each other through major medical treatments, my big move, and caregiver challenges for both of us. Like Proverbs 17:17 says, "A friend loves at all times."
NO TIME LIMIT
Many wonderful characteristics of love are listed in First Corinthians Thirteen. You often hear them mentioned in marriage ceremonies, and that’s wonderful. But I see them as important for building friendships, too.
A loving friendship lasts because it is affection based on esteem, shown by respect and appreciation.
Benjamin DeJong said, “Friends, like all good things in this life, can be had by anyone who wants them. There is only one simple rule to follow; it is this: to have a friend, be one yourself.” If you believe that statement, then this Checklist for True Friendship can be used both ways.
CHECK THE LIST
CHECK THE LIST
True Friends Are:
Selfless: they seek good for themselves, but not at your expense.
Slow to Anger: they are not easily angered, or even easily exasperated.
Poor record keepers: if you wrong them and apologize, they accept and let it go.
Truthful: they are trustworthy because their hearts seek truth and justice for all.
Protective: they may speak to you of your faults, but will not gossip to others.
Hopeful: with clarity of vision, they look for positives, instead of dwelling on negatives.
FRIENDSHIPS HAVE VALUE
True friends are not the dime-a-dozen variety. They're more like diamonds. I thought a few were diamonds in the rough when we first met. But, who knows, maybe they thought the same about me.
The proverb says “a friend loves at all times.” All times seems like a pretty big order, but it’s possible. Just make that a true, reliable, genuine friend---one without deceit or ulterior motives.
Have that friend and be that friend . . . you’ll both be covered.